The story of the cake is symbolic to the story of life. The cake is life, all of life. (You are a slice of this cake, a slice of life). The ingredients in the cake are made up of all that is your life and all that has ever happened to make your life what it is today.
You may be feeling guilty about something that has happened in your life. You may be feeling responsible for that which has happened.
You may feel some past action on your part, was the cause of a further chain of events.
You are responsible for everything you say and do, but you are not responsible for another person’s reaction to it.
You play a major part in what happens in your life, but you cannot be responsible for all that happens.
Take for example a slice of cake. There are many ingredients in this slice of cake. This slice is only part of the whole cake.
The whole cake is all of life.
You may not like this slice of cake, now that you have tasted it. (You may not like what life has
produced, now that you have tasted it, “other people’s behaviour etc”). This slice could be a friend, a partner or a family member.
This slice could also be you. You are only seeing a slice of cake, (a slice of life). What you see is only part of the cake.
Do you blame yourself or others for the total product (the complete cake), rather than look at how many people may have played a part in creating the ingredients.
How many more people did it take to put these ingredients together and how many more did it take to finally complete the cake?
It took many lifetimes and many people to make this cake.
One slice is you. Another slice is another person.
Each of you is but a small part of the total cake.
At this point in time you may be feeling guilty and taking responsibility for all that is happening around you (the total cake). If you feel you are taking responsibility for the total happenings, it may be time to let go. Try to get in perspective the number of people, the many ingredients i.e. parents, peers, teachers, family, friends and all the scenarios it has taken, for you to reach this point where you are today.
This cake began at the beginning of time and so did you.
Go back to the beginning of this cake and even further.
Do you know what part the farmer played in harvesting the corn? Was he good or bad tempered?
Do you know the part the person played who sold the farmer the machinery that harvested the corn? Was he honest or dishonest?
Do you know the part the farmer’s family played? Were they cruel or kind?
Do you know the part the miller played? Was he hasty or slow?
Do you know the part the baker played? Was he in a hurry, overworked or did he undercook or overcook the cake?
Do you know what the shop assistant was like? Did they handle this cake with tender loving care or with aggression?
How was your cake presented? Was it wrapped neatly or slovenly?
There are so many more people who have played a part in the making of this cake. Being the slice, is only one part of the whole (only one part of your whole life).
If you are still feeling guilty and taking responsibility for some events that have happened in your life, then it may be time to acknowledge that guilt.
Put it in perspective and say, “It is not necessarily what I would do now with the knowledge I have at this moment in time, but it was the best I could do with the knowledge I had at that time.” In this way you are accepting but not denying the part you played in a particular event.
Remember guilt is a very controlling emotion but once you acknowledge it, – it loses its control over you.
Today is the day you start to move forward with responsibility for yourself, your actions and your reactions.
I will acknowledge my guilt.
I will not allow guilt to control me.
I am responsible for everything I say or do.
I am not responsible for the actions or reactions of others.
I am not the total of all that is.
I am part of all that is.
I am not responsible for the total of all that is.
I am responsible for the part that is me.